Everyone wants to be the best version of themselves, but few are able to achieve it. A lot of the time we’re actually our own worst enemies, self-destructing without even realizing it. To truly thrive and live a life that’s filled with passion and purpose, you first need to figure out who you are now, where you are going, and how to get there. We’ve put together these 5 easy steps to help guide you on your journey.
1. Who are you now?
Most of us have an idea of who we want to be, but this idea might not line up with who you are designed to be. It’s why knowing who you really are is so important. It seems obvious, but you’ll be surprised at how few people take the time to reflect on themselves and truly get to know who they are. What are your strengths and weaknesses? What are your talents and skills? What is working in your life and what is holding you back? If you’re struggling to be objective, then perhaps it’s worth getting an outsiders perspective, by asking someone who knows you well how they view you as person.
2. What do you want?
Next up, it’s time to identify what it is you want from your life. Is success in your career important to you? Is family your top priority? Do you want a thriving career, while still being a present mother to your children? Does being a charitable person play a significant role in your life? When answering these questions try to be as specific (and as honest with yourself) as possible. Remember that the better you understand yourself, the bigger the impact you’ll inevitably have on the world.
3. What does the best version of yourself look like?
Before you can become the best version of yourself, you first need to understand what that actually is. Analyse what your own personal vision is. Who are you? What are your traits? What are you doing with your life? What sort of relationships do you have with people? Who do you have around you? Remember, that this is your own personal vision, so try not to let other people influence it too much.
4. What actions do you need to take to become that person?
Now that you have a good idea of where you’re going, you need to figure out exactly how to get there. Imagine the type of person that could achieve this dream with ease. What skills and mind-set does that person have? And what is missing from the current you? Create a plan, made up of important milestones and tasks that will get you to where you need to be and then start taking actions towards becoming the best version of yourself.
5. Map your progress and identify what trips you up.
Once you have your plan of action, it’s important to track your progress. Remember that habits (good or bad) can be created in as little as 21 days, so make sure that you stick with it. Take notes every day on whether or not you were able to complete your tasks, and if you didn’t then try your best to figure out what stopped you. Ask yourself how you can make changes in your daily routine that will help support your move towards becoming a better version of yourself for the future.
As with most things becoming the best version of you requires work, the important thing is to know that you don't need to do it in isolation. There are many more women out there on a similar journey as you. To connect with a few of those join our community TAC She Sisterhood, a group of likeminded women on a journey to create a life and career they love. Hope to see you there.
HANNA GIRLING, wife, mother, business owner, coach, sport enthusiast and forever an optimist.