As the year begins to wind down and a fresh new one rises on the horizon, you’re likely to start reflecting on the year gone by and what you want to get out of the new one to come. Do you want to lose weight? Change careers? Work on your relationships? We all love a fresh start, and a new year gives us just that. A clean slate on which to build the life we truly want. Yet despite all this, so many of us end up failing at our New Year resolutions, quickly falling back on old routines and bad habits. Here are three reasons why…
1. You don’t really know what you want.
For many of us, the end of the year is a frantically busy time. Work commitments are juggled with holiday planning, family visits, an excess of functions and end of year social occasions, not to mention gift shopping for loved ones. Before we know it, the New Year is upon us and we find ourselves scrambling to put together our list of resolutions and goals for the year.
At this time of year, it’s difficult to know whether you’re coming or going, let along what you want for the next 12 months.
2. They’re vague and unspecific.
Whether you’re filled with the excitement and anticipation of New Year’s Eve, or dealing the after effects of late night celebrations on New Year’s Day, this time of year means that you’re unlikely to know what you need, want or can achieve. That’s why so often your resolutions reflect what you want now, instead of what you want in life.
Instead of putting time aside to reflect and set realistic and well thought out goals, you’re more likely to make a sweeping resolution based on something you’ve always dreamt of, regardless of whether it’s achievable. In addition, when your resolutions are vague it’s impossible for your brain to understand what you are trying to achieve and in short, you’re setting yourself up to fail.
3. You try to start too many new things at once.
With a new year comes fresh motivation and an optimistic outlook. You feel excited for what’s to come and are determined to take the new year by the horns. You’re going to change your old ways and bring out the new you.
All this may sound good and well, but the problem is, bringing too much change into your life at one time is going to be a real challenge to keep up. Before too long that newfound positive attitude is going to start to wear off as life continues as usual, and you begin to fall behind on your resolutions and plans.
Then question is then, what should you do to make 2020 your best year? Where you achieve want you want without the changes becoming overwhelming? Great news, we've created a mini-training that will tell you exactly what to do. You can access it here.
Shine on my friend.
HANNA GIRLING, wife, mother, business owner, mindset coach, sport enthusiast and forever an optimist.