Change can be difficult. It’s why all too often we would rather continue as we are, even if it’s holding us back from our full potential. But when you start feeling stuck, you’ll know that it’s time to make a change. It’s actually acting on that knowledge that’s the tough part. We’ve put together some simple tips on how to get unstuck, so that you can start moving forward and tapping into new opportunities.
1. Reframe your limiting mindset.
All too often, we get stuck before we even get started. Have you ever decided it’s time for a change, only to be stopped in your tracks by that nagging voice of self-doubt? If you listen to that voice, you’ll always lack the confidence you need to move forward in your career or your life. Your inner voice will always be able to find an excuse as to why you can’t do something. But it’s important to remember that these limitations only exist in your mind. Practice tuning out that inner voice and rather focus on more productive things like creating a plan of action or finding a new skill to master. Do this and you’re sure to build confidence as you conquer each new task.
2. Create real options (but not too many).
When you’re trying to make an important decision in your life that will cause a significant change, you first need to figure out what the problem is that you’re trying to solve and then come up with realistic alternatives to solve this problem. This way, a lot of the guesswork is taken out of the decision-making, as now your choice is founded on well-thought out scenarios and solutions. Remember that your first option, is not always the best option. So be sure to spend some time investigating different scenarios, so that you’re able to make the best decision possible.
3. Don’t focus on impossible problems.
When it comes to moving forward, there’s no point wasting your time on problems that are not really problems, but are situations that can’t be changed. Do you really want to be a poet, but know that poets don’t earn much money? Well, if having enough money is important to you, then don’t waste your time trying to figure out a solution to this unchanging situation. Rather accept it as a fact and focus your energy on other options that will better serve you and your end goal.
4. Learn from your mistakes that are worth learning from.
Every now and then, we all mess up and make mistakes. But the mistakes you want to focus on are the ones you make that could have been avoided if you’d known more, as these are the ones that can be avoided in the future. Make sure you spend the time to figure out exactly where you went wrong, and how you could have done things differently to achieve better results. This way you can use your mistakes to propel you forward in the future, and avoid making the same mistakes that will leave you stuck in the same situation. And then equally important, do not waste energy on the ones that are simply screw ups - they happen, accept it and move on!
It is easy to get stuck, but remember there is always a way forward - and you don't have to do it alone. If you want to create a life and career you love, in support of likeminded women on a similar journey join our Facebook group TAC She Sisterhood. Hope to see you there.
Everyone wants to be the best version of themselves, but few are able to achieve it. A lot of the time we’re actually our own worst enemies, self-destructing without even realizing it. To truly thrive and live a life that’s filled with passion and purpose, you first need to figure out who you are now, where you are going, and how to get there. We’ve put together these 5 easy steps to help guide you on your journey.
1. Who are you now?
Most of us have an idea of who we want to be, but this idea might not line up with who you are designed to be. It’s why knowing who you really are is so important. It seems obvious, but you’ll be surprised at how few people take the time to reflect on themselves and truly get to know who they are. What are your strengths and weaknesses? What are your talents and skills? What is working in your life and what is holding you back? If you’re struggling to be objective, then perhaps it’s worth getting an outsiders perspective, by asking someone who knows you well how they view you as person.
2. What do you want?
Next up, it’s time to identify what it is you want from your life. Is success in your career important to you? Is family your top priority? Do you want a thriving career, while still being a present mother to your children? Does being a charitable person play a significant role in your life? When answering these questions try to be as specific (and as honest with yourself) as possible. Remember that the better you understand yourself, the bigger the impact you’ll inevitably have on the world.
3. What does the best version of yourself look like?
Before you can become the best version of yourself, you first need to understand what that actually is. Analyse what your own personal vision is. Who are you? What are your traits? What are you doing with your life? What sort of relationships do you have with people? Who do you have around you? Remember, that this is your own personal vision, so try not to let other people influence it too much.
4. What actions do you need to take to become that person?
Now that you have a good idea of where you’re going, you need to figure out exactly how to get there. Imagine the type of person that could achieve this dream with ease. What skills and mind-set does that person have? And what is missing from the current you? Create a plan, made up of important milestones and tasks that will get you to where you need to be and then start taking actions towards becoming the best version of yourself.
5. Map your progress and identify what trips you up.
Once you have your plan of action, it’s important to track your progress. Remember that habits (good or bad) can be created in as little as 21 days, so make sure that you stick with it. Take notes every day on whether or not you were able to complete your tasks, and if you didn’t then try your best to figure out what stopped you. Ask yourself how you can make changes in your daily routine that will help support your move towards becoming a better version of yourself for the future.
As with most things becoming the best version of you requires work, the important thing is to know that you don't need to do it in isolation. There are many more women out there on a similar journey as you. To connect with a few of those join our community TAC She Sisterhood, a group of likeminded women on a journey to create a life and career they love. Hope to see you there.
HANNA GIRLING, wife, mother, business owner, mindset coach, sport enthusiast and forever an optimist.