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As the year begins to wind down and a fresh new one rises on the horizon, you’re likely to start reflecting on the year gone by and what you want to get out of the new one to come. Do you want to lose weight? Change careers? Work on your relationships? We all love a fresh start, and a new year gives us just that. A clean slate on which to build the life we truly want. Yet despite all this, so many of us end up failing at our New Year resolutions, quickly falling back on old routines and bad habits. Here are three reasons why…  1. You don’t really know what you want.
For many of us, the end of the year is a frantically busy time. Work commitments are juggled with holiday planning, family visits, an excess of functions and end of year social occasions, not to mention gift shopping for loved ones. Before we know it, the New Year is upon us and we find ourselves scrambling to put together our list of resolutions and goals for the year. At this time of year, it’s difficult to know whether you’re coming or going, let along what you want for the next 12 months. 2. They’re vague and unspecific. Whether you’re filled with the excitement and anticipation of New Year’s Eve, or dealing the after effects of late night celebrations on New Year’s Day, this time of year means that you’re unlikely to know what you need, want or can achieve. That’s why so often your resolutions reflect what you want now, instead of what you want in life. Instead of putting time aside to reflect and set realistic and well thought out goals, you’re more likely to make a sweeping resolution based on something you’ve always dreamt of, regardless of whether it’s achievable. In addition, when your resolutions are vague it’s impossible for your brain to understand what you are trying to achieve and in short, you’re setting yourself up to fail. 3. You try to start too many new things at once. With a new year comes fresh motivation and an optimistic outlook. You feel excited for what’s to come and are determined to take the new year by the horns. You’re going to change your old ways and bring out the new you. All this may sound good and well, but the problem is, bringing too much change into your life at one time is going to be a real challenge to keep up. Before too long that newfound positive attitude is going to start to wear off as life continues as usual, and you begin to fall behind on your resolutions and plans. Then question is then, what should you do to make 2020 your best year? Where you achieve want you want without the changes becoming overwhelming? Great news, we've created a mini-training that will tell you exactly what to do. You can access it here. Shine on my friend. Hanna x
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The holidays should be a time for relaxation and rejuvenation. An opportunity to reflect on the year gone by and prepare for the new one to come, while enjoying special quality time with friends and family. Why then do so many of us fill with dread and anxiety at the thought of December rolling around again?  Many people find that the holiday season brings as much stress as it does joy. All the family gatherings and social occasions, although fun, can start to feel overwhelming, particularly if the brunt of the planning and organising is left up to you. Women are especially prone to feeling the holiday stress, as traditionally most of the planning, shopping, cooking, decorating and coordinating is left up to us.
This year, why not try practising a few new traditions, one’s that will help keep the holiday stress at bay and allow you the space to really enjoy all the fun and festivities! Here are our top four ways to create a stress-free December. 1. Dream big. The first step is figuring out what type of December holiday you want. Perhaps you’re a social person and want to make the most of the opportunity to see people and spend time with the ones you love? Do you love cooking for people and hosting them in your space? Or do you simply want to carve out some time for yourself, where you can recharge your batteries for the new year ahead? Whatever your ideal holiday, make sure you spend time reflecting on what it is, to avoid being swept up in the busyness of the season and other people’s plans. 2. Create your ideal holiday. Now that you know what type of holiday that you want, it’s time to figure out which activities fit into your vision. Reflect on what normally happens in December. What sort of activities tend to fill up your time or add extra stress to your life? What are the activities you do because you truly want to, and not because you feel obligated to do? What has worked (and not worked) for previous holidays? What are your best memories from holidays past, and what events were the most draining? Use your answers to help make healthy choices and important changes to reduce the amount of stress this year. If your new choices will affect your family and friends, make sure you speak to them about it now before they set schedules or make any plans on your behalf. Remember that you aren’t obligated to accept every invitation you get. Think about which ones you'll enjoy and then graciously decline the rest. 3. Plan ahead. Sticking to a timetable can make the holidays a lot less chaotic. Plus, having a plan laid out in front of you of how you are going to achieve everything you want to in the time you have, will help lessen the feeling of last-minute stress that can easily crop up. Once you know the activities you will be doing this December, put them all into your diary. Now look at your schedule and ask yourself if it makes you feel like this will be your best December. If not, go back and change it until you feel truly excited for the month to come. 4. Get started early. Leaving things to the last minute is a sure-fire way to take the fun out of any task. Don’t leave things for later that can be done now. Plan the dinners you will be hosting, organise your gift list, shop early (and online), and prepare your holiday cards in advance so they’re ready to be mailed. By tackling your list of things to do early, you can help remove stress and more importantly, make sure you end up using your time the way you want to when the holidays do roll around. |
AuthorHANNA GIRLING, wife, mother, business owner, mindset coach, sport enthusiast and forever an optimist. Archives
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