In today’s consumerist world, it’s easy to accumulate unnecessary clutter in your home that leaves you feeling distracted, stressed out and even anxious. If this sounds like you, perhaps it’s time to reorganise and get rid of all that extra stuff.
Decluttering can feel time-consuming and exhausting but it’s well worth it! To prove our point, we’ve put together a list of our top five reasons why you should tidy and declutter your home and life.
1. Mess causes stress.
Studies have shown that the more stuff you have, the more stress you experience. This is particularly true for women who are more prone to high cortisol (stress hormone) as a response to excess clutter.
Perhaps this is because, as women, we tend to associate an untidy home with personal failure, inevitably drumming up feelings of guilt and anxiety.
On top of this, messy environments signal to your brain that your work is never done, opening you up to feelings of anxiety and helplessness. Although the thought of decluttering your space can seem daunting, research shows that the less time spent dealing with your belongings, the more relaxed you will be.
So, putting in the effort today can help you become more happy, calm and relaxed in the future.
2. Clutter in the home is clutter in the mind.
Have you ever found that having a messy desk makes it harder to get stuff done? This is because your brain has a hard time differentiating between what is clutter and what is actually important.
We don’t know where to start so we end up doing nothing at all.
These feelings of being overwhelmed not only make you less capable of effectively processing information, but also make you more prone to frustration.
Research shows that decluttering your work and living spaces makes it easier for your brain to focus as you no longer have clutter competing for your attention. By surrounding yourself with order and tidiness, you’re more likely to have a productive and focused mind.
3. It wastes your time.
This one is simple; the less clutter you have lying around, the less time you’ll spend cleaning. In fact, studies show that getting rid of clutter reduces household cleaning by a whopping 40%.
Plus, when every item has a purpose and a place in your home, you’ll be able to avoid countless time-wasting tasks such as searching for your keys, or sifting through an endless wardrobe of clothes you no longer wear.
Reduce your possessions and you’ll quickly notice how much more efficient and manageable your daily routine becomes, without the usual snags that trip you up along the way.
4. Flex your decision-making muscles.
In decluttering your space, try to be as selective as possible, choosing wisely to keep only the most important and necessary items.
Deciding which things to keep and which things to get rid of is a great opportunity to practise your decision-making skills. A skill that will serve you well in all aspects of your life.
5. Clutter is unhealthy.
Do you have old clothes hanging in the back of the closet, or discarded toys in the corner of the garage?
Items you no longer use are quite literally collecting dust and making your space unhealthier. Junk items make it more difficult to clean, inevitably leading to a build-up of dirt and dust that directly affects air quality in your home.
A thorough spring clean (regardless of the time of year) will purify the air you breathe, impacting your physical and mental wellbeing.
Now you know why it is important, it's time to take action. Would you like me to tell you about the easy way to start decluttering your life and surroundings, then grab our free Declutter Challenge and start today. It only takes 10min a day.
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In our increasingly noisy world of social media and multitasking, days roll into weeks in the blink of an eye. If you don’t pause to take stock you can quickly find yourself feeling drained and dissatisfied with the routine of daily life, and unable to remember why you’re doing any of it in the first place. That’s why it has become more important than ever to find ways to connect to the deeper meaning in everyday tasks. Don’t know how to start? Here are six tips for finding meaning in your life.
1. Reconnect with your big picture.
When your days are made up of back and forth emails, annoying errands and navigating social politics, it can be easy to forget why you’re doing these things in the first place.
That’s why it’s always important to keep your bigger picture in mind, reminding yourself that these small tasks will eventually take you to the destination you want. Take the time to reflect on your daily routines and think about the kind of life they’re building. This will allow you the space to prioritise what is important and what is not.
2. Explore your passions.
Do you love to paint, hike, or travel? Whatever your passion, it’s important to carve out time in your life for the things you want to do, not only the things you have to do.
This isn’t to say that you should make your passion into your business, but by reconnecting and making time for the things that you love doing, you’ll bring renewed energy and passion into your life.
3. Help others to help yourself.
People who help others tend to experience a deeper level of fulfilment in their own lives. That’s why volunteering in your community is not only a great way to connect with others but also to find deeper meaning in the everyday.
Make sure you spend time finding a cause that resonates with you, as you’ll be far more likely to put effort into something you truly care about. If charity work simply isn’t your thing, there are plenty of other ways to insert a little meaning through kindness. Remember that it’s the small things that have the biggest impact. Buy your colleague a coffee, help someone with their groceries or simply lend an ear to a friend who seems down.
When you start looking for ways to improve other people’s lives, you’ll soon find yourself less focused on your own problems.
4. Practise self-love.
In our chaotic lives, it can sometimes feel like every hour is planned and dedicated to a specific task. Unless you take time out to take care of yourself, this busy lifestyle can quickly start taking a toll on your body and mind. It’s vital that you find ways to relax and unwind and then prioritise these every day.
Whether it’s a quick mediation and stretch in the morning or walking the dog at sunset, make sure to schedule in your downtime with the same rigour you would your other tasks.
So, now you have a few ways to start finding meaning in your everyday tasks, but maybe you're feeling it's difficult to find the time. If that's you and you'd like some practical tips on where to find the time grab our free worksheet 'How To Find Time For You' click here to download it now.
Being honest with others is something we’ve all been taught. It’s emphasised from a very young age and is a continuous theme throughout life. For many, it’s one of their core principles on which their personal code of ethics is based. Yet we rarely take the time to consider whether we’re being truly honest with ourselves.
Self-honesty begins with self-reflection; an objective inward look at our own truth. The problem is that our minds have a sneaky tendency to rationalise and create stories to justify certain behaviours and to avoid the discomfort that change can bring. On top this, our minds are programmed to manipulate our thinking to align with instant gratification, which rarely represents the truth.
Have you ever justified a bad food choice by making up an internal excuse about why you deserve the sugary treat? These types of misleading interpretations occur throughout our lives, as our mind busily tries to come up with reasons or excuses for the choices that are not serving us.
The thing is, the more we lie to ourselves the less inclined we are to move forward and overcome the difficulties that stand in our way. By accepting our internal justifications as truth, we’re more likely to be complacent in our unhappiness, unable to evolve and reach the lives we truly want.
It’s your life and you’re the only one who is going to live it. That’s why it’s worth taking a hard look at who you are and what is at the core of you. Don’t build your identity around public opinion or current trends. In life, everything else may change, but if you have a good understanding of your true and authentic self, then you will always have a firm grounding that you know you can rely on no matter where life may take you.
Being honest with yourself is vital if you want to understand what it is you want from life. It brings clarity and allows you the opportunity to reflect on the things you are doing. When you know what you want, then you can work to make the vision for your life a reality. Remember to ask yourself if the people and activities in your life are helping you achieve your goals. Be brutally honest and the answers will become clear, helping you make tough decisions when it comes to relationships and career.
Do you need some help clarifying what want from your life at this part of your life journey? Coaching can be a great help, book your free taster call to see how it can help you.
Change can be difficult. It’s why all too often we would rather continue as we are, even if it’s holding us back from our full potential. But when you start feeling stuck, you’ll know that it’s time to make a change. It’s actually acting on that knowledge that’s the tough part. We’ve put together some simple tips on how to get unstuck, so that you can start moving forward and tapping into new opportunities.
1. Reframe your limiting mindset.
All too often, we get stuck before we even get started. Have you ever decided it’s time for a change, only to be stopped in your tracks by that nagging voice of self-doubt? If you listen to that voice, you’ll always lack the confidence you need to move forward in your career or your life. Your inner voice will always be able to find an excuse as to why you can’t do something. But it’s important to remember that these limitations only exist in your mind. Practice tuning out that inner voice and rather focus on more productive things like creating a plan of action or finding a new skill to master. Do this and you’re sure to build confidence as you conquer each new task.
2. Create real options (but not too many).
When you’re trying to make an important decision in your life that will cause a significant change, you first need to figure out what the problem is that you’re trying to solve and then come up with realistic alternatives to solve this problem. This way, a lot of the guesswork is taken out of the decision-making, as now your choice is founded on well-thought out scenarios and solutions. Remember that your first option, is not always the best option. So be sure to spend some time investigating different scenarios, so that you’re able to make the best decision possible.
3. Don’t focus on impossible problems.
When it comes to moving forward, there’s no point wasting your time on problems that are not really problems, but are situations that can’t be changed. Do you really want to be a poet, but know that poets don’t earn much money? Well, if having enough money is important to you, then don’t waste your time trying to figure out a solution to this unchanging situation. Rather accept it as a fact and focus your energy on other options that will better serve you and your end goal.
4. Learn from your mistakes that are worth learning from.
Every now and then, we all mess up and make mistakes. But the mistakes you want to focus on are the ones you make that could have been avoided if you’d known more, as these are the ones that can be avoided in the future. Make sure you spend the time to figure out exactly where you went wrong, and how you could have done things differently to achieve better results. This way you can use your mistakes to propel you forward in the future, and avoid making the same mistakes that will leave you stuck in the same situation. And then equally important, do not waste energy on the ones that are simply screw ups - they happen, accept it and move on!
It is easy to get stuck, but remember there is always a way forward - and you don't have to do it alone. If you want to create a life and career you love, in support of likeminded women on a similar journey join our Facebook group TAC She Sisterhood. Hope to see you there.
Everyone wants to be the best version of themselves, but few are able to achieve it. A lot of the time we’re actually our own worst enemies, self-destructing without even realizing it. To truly thrive and live a life that’s filled with passion and purpose, you first need to figure out who you are now, where you are going, and how to get there. We’ve put together these 5 easy steps to help guide you on your journey.
1. Who are you now?
Most of us have an idea of who we want to be, but this idea might not line up with who you are designed to be. It’s why knowing who you really are is so important. It seems obvious, but you’ll be surprised at how few people take the time to reflect on themselves and truly get to know who they are. What are your strengths and weaknesses? What are your talents and skills? What is working in your life and what is holding you back? If you’re struggling to be objective, then perhaps it’s worth getting an outsiders perspective, by asking someone who knows you well how they view you as person.
2. What do you want?
Next up, it’s time to identify what it is you want from your life. Is success in your career important to you? Is family your top priority? Do you want a thriving career, while still being a present mother to your children? Does being a charitable person play a significant role in your life? When answering these questions try to be as specific (and as honest with yourself) as possible. Remember that the better you understand yourself, the bigger the impact you’ll inevitably have on the world.
3. What does the best version of yourself look like?
Before you can become the best version of yourself, you first need to understand what that actually is. Analyse what your own personal vision is. Who are you? What are your traits? What are you doing with your life? What sort of relationships do you have with people? Who do you have around you? Remember, that this is your own personal vision, so try not to let other people influence it too much.
4. What actions do you need to take to become that person?
Now that you have a good idea of where you’re going, you need to figure out exactly how to get there. Imagine the type of person that could achieve this dream with ease. What skills and mind-set does that person have? And what is missing from the current you? Create a plan, made up of important milestones and tasks that will get you to where you need to be and then start taking actions towards becoming the best version of yourself.
5. Map your progress and identify what trips you up.
Once you have your plan of action, it’s important to track your progress. Remember that habits (good or bad) can be created in as little as 21 days, so make sure that you stick with it. Take notes every day on whether or not you were able to complete your tasks, and if you didn’t then try your best to figure out what stopped you. Ask yourself how you can make changes in your daily routine that will help support your move towards becoming a better version of yourself for the future.
As with most things becoming the best version of you requires work, the important thing is to know that you don't need to do it in isolation. There are many more women out there on a similar journey as you. To connect with a few of those join our community TAC She Sisterhood, a group of likeminded women on a journey to create a life and career they love. Hope to see you there.
If you’ve ever attempted to make a career change, you’ll know that it’s not easy. Whether you’re looking to branch out with your own business, change industries, or simply move into a new role within the same business; going in a new direction is a daunting task that comes with a whole list of challenges. But don’t let that deter you from making an important change! There are always ways to move from one path to another, and luckily, we’ve put together these five steps to help you on your way.
1. There’s more than one chance to change.
Making any big change in your life can be stressful and scary. All too often we’re paralysed by our fear, making it impossible to move forward or to choose a direction. That’s why it’s important to keep in mind that your life - and career – is a journey, not simply an outcome. So, rather than focusing solely on an end goal, try to think in terms of your next step, or what you would like to try next. Avoid putting added pressure on yourself by thinking that you need to find your true calling and your life’s passion, or making a much-needed change will be that much harder. Remember that very few people know exactly what they want to do with their lives from the very start, most of us figure it out as we go along. Plus, if it doesn’t work out, you can always go in another direction.
2. Base your next job on what you enjoy doing.
When changing careers, people tend to place a lot of focus on the skills they’ve developed or the professional experience they’ve gained, and use this to guide their next steps. But perhaps more important should rather be to think about what you enjoy and what you’re naturally good at. What sort of environment do you enjoy being in? What sort of people do you want to work with? These questions will help you narrow down your options, allowing you to do more targeted research into what specific jobs entail and what sort of experience and skills you will need to land one of these roles. Once you know what direction you want to go in, it becomes easier to see how you can plug in your existing skills and experience. Plus, this way, you’re less likely to end up doing another job that you don’t enjoy!
3. Be clear on your non-negotiables.
Do you have a good understanding of what your priorities are when it comes to choosing your new career path? If not, this is a step worth spending some time on. Your non-negotiables are things that you absolutely cannot do without, and it’s important that you make a clear list of what these are and separate them from your ‘nice-to-haves’. You’ll quickly be able to develop a checklist that you can use to cross-check prospective jobs to help you figure out if it’s an option worth pursuing. Whether it’s your everyday work environment, remuneration, or how rewarding the job is; non-negotiables will be different for everyone so it’s important to spend time figuring out what these are for you.
4. You need to believe that it really can happen.
Changing careers can be daunting. But if you believe in yourself and your ability to perform your new role well, you’re already halfway to achieving success! Remember, if you don’t have confidence in yourself, nobody else will have confidence in you either. So, to help build your self-belief, start by identifying key milestones on your journey to success. Next, pinpoint specific activities and tasks you need to do in order to achieve these goals. By taking these steps forward, no matter how trivial or small they may seem, you will slowly move towards achieving your goals and are sure to grow your self-confidence with each milestone reached.
5. Build your networks.
If you dream of starting a new business, changing careers or simply moving in a new direction, surrounding yourself with a strong and supportive network is key to your success! Talk to people in your network who are in the industry you wish to move into. You’ll be surprised how much you can learn from their experiences, which will save you having to learn these lessons the hard way yourself. Ask questions about what they do, how they got there, and what you’ll need to make it in the field. This advice and support will prove to be invaluable in your journey to a successful career change.
You now have a few ways to get started. If you would like to make sure you avoid the most common mistakes when creating a new career grab our free guide. You can download it here
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Your brand is your reputation. It’s your calling card. It’s what you’re known for and how people experience you. It’s about bringing who you are, to what you do and how you do it. Delivering your brand clearly and consistently will create a memorable experience in the minds of those you interact with, personally and professionally, and can be the key to opening doors to new opportunities. That’s why building your personal brand is just so important. Plus, you want people to remember the best sides of you and not letting negative self talk guide others' perception of you. And by knowing your story it allows people to connect on a more personal level to you. Don’t know where to start? Here are our top 5 tips to effectively building your personal brand.
1. Define Your Story
We all have a narrative that we tell, whether we do so consciously or unconsciously. And it is these stories that define us. In building your brand it’s important to tell a compelling story of who you are, whether you’re speaking to co-workers, bosses, clients, friends, family, or strangers you have just met. It’s these stories that will inspire them to believe in your character, in your motives behind your actions, and your ability to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself. Plus, the process of creating and telling a story that resonates can help you build belief in yourself too. When defining your story make sure not to let the past dictate your future, but rather take stories of the past that are relevant for the future and build these into your brand.
2. Know Your Purpose
As well-known author and marketing consultant Simon Sinek once said, “people don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it”. That’s why it’s important for you to know exactly what your values are, so you can build a good understanding of why you do what you do. Knowing your purpose, and being able to clearly communicate this to the people around you, will go a long way in getting people to buy into your personal brand.
3. Decide What Skills and Strengths to Showcase
The next step is to figure out which of your skills and strengths you want to be known for and then showcasing these as best you can. You may have many skills, but the ones that are the most important to highlight are the ones that are most relevant to your success. The more people associate you with your specific areas of expertise, the more they will trust and value your personal brand, allowing you to become their go-to for insights or opinions.
4. Have Your Elevator Pitch Ready… Always
You never know when you’re going to meet someone that has the power to change your life, so it’s vital that you’re always prepared! If you had 30 seconds to tell people about yourself, your idea or your career or business to someone, would you be ready? What would you say? Would you be able to get your message across effectively and authentically? Face-to-face opportunities are rare, so when one of them comes your way, make sure you’re as ready as you can be with a perfected elevator pitch that will effectively sell you as a person, as well as your business.
5. Be Authentic
Your personal brand should reflect who you really are. A good starting point is to make sure you have a good understanding of who that is before you start sharing it with the world. Take the time to figure out exactly what you believe in, what you stand for and what your strengths and weaknesses are. Remember that people connect with other people. Stay true to your authentic yourself and people will naturally trust you.
6. Tidy Up Your Online Profiles
Being in the spotlight isn’t for everyone, but these days everyone is online. Make sure you’re social media profiles reflect who you are and how you want to be seen. Remember to focus on sharing quality content and keep a balance between career or business and personal life. Perhaps you should consider setting up a personal website to improve your search rankings and to allow you more control over your online presence. The more accessible you are, the stronger your personal brand will become.
Would you like to get feedback on your elevator pitch? Or other tips and support on your journey to create a life and career you love? The come and join our free facebook group TAC She Sisterhood, full of likeminded women on their journey to create a life and career they love. Join the sisterhood here.
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Are you thinking about making some big changes in your life? Do you want to up your game at work despite having young kids? Are you looking for a change in careers altogether? Or maybe you dream of starting your own business? But all too often, something stops you in your tracks, even before you’ve started.
Often, the thing that is stopping you from making these positive changes is in fact your own mind and the stories that you tell yourself about why you can’t do it. To overcome these negative mindsets, you first need to become aware of the thoughts that act as barriers to change, and then learn how to reframe these so that they’re motivating instead. Here are 5 negative things we tend to tell ourselves when we’re faced with change, and how to combat them.
1. I don’t have the right experience.
Reframe: I have built up experience over a lifetime and can add the skills I need to do this.
When faced with doing something different, it can often leave you feeling as though you have no experience at all! Remember that throughout your life you have built up a wealth of knowledge that goes far beyond your professional career. Make a list of all the skills you have and experience you’ve gained, and then see how these can benefit you in your new pursuit. Identify the areas where you’re lacking and figure out how you can learn these new skills that you will need. Once you have a plan of action, the experience gap won’t seem so daunting anymore.
2. Now is not the right time to change.
Reframe: Now is as good a time as any to start creating the life and career I want.
Starting on a path of change can be daunting. It’s the reason why all too often you stop yourself before you’ve even started. If you give in to this thought, you’re bound to find a reason to justify it, no matter what stage of your life you’re in. Your kids are too young, you don’t have the money, or you’re about to get a promotion at work. Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember that you can start small and take little steps towards achieving your new goals today. Whether it’s as simple as working on your business plan, taking an online course, building your mailing list, or expanding your network, start moving in the right direction now, so that when the timing is right you will be in a better position to move forward.
3. I need a solid plan or nobody will take me seriously.
Reframe: I can do this step by step and start getting feedback from day one so that I can embark on my new adventure with confidence.
Asking for advice from people you trust is a great way to help you define your plan for change. Asking family and friends is often our first point of call. But remember that although they of course want to be helpful, sometimes they may have an invested interest in the outcome, which could influence the advice they offer. Often, a better direction to go is to get feedback from people who are in similar situations, as they will be able to offer valuable and relevant insights. If you don’t know anyone personally, head online to a career forum for some helpful advice.
4. I am too old to make a big change in my life.
Reframe: I am fortunate to have so much experience to draw from, which will help make the change easier.
When we finish high school, we’re all told that it’s time to choose a career path. What do you want to study? What job do you want to do? What career do you want for your life? But how are we supposed to make such enormous decisions, when we’re only just old enough to drive a car? As we grow older, our tastes, interests and passions develop and mature in ways that we could never predict when we’re younger. But the truth of the matter is that you’re never too old to make a change, and you’re never too old to live the life you dream of. Rather than using your age as an excuse, focus on the fact that you have valuable experience that will serve you well in your next pursuit. Rather than focusing on the past, look to the future by visualising where you are going and the steps you’ll need to take to get there.
5. I should be fearless.
Reframe: I respect my fear, but will not let it paralyse me from taking steps towards achieving my dreams.
Fear is not only natural but is also inevitable, and can even be useful in certain circumstances. We need fear. It stops us from taking unreasonable risks. But it shouldn’t be something that stops you from making positive changes. So, strip away the unrealistic belief that you should be fearless in the face of change and rather focus on finding ways to manage your fear so that it doesn’t get in the way of moving forward. Acknowledge your fear and try to understand where it is coming from, allowing you take charge of it. Choose to rather focus on more productive feelings or actions and your fear will soon become background noise to your positive mindset.
Getting your mind to work for you instead of against you can be a tricky thing. On Tuesday the 17th April 2018 I hosted a free mini-masterclass on the topic 'The 3 core elements of a thriving mind' it is still available in our Facebook group TAC She Sisterhood a group of likeminded women on a journey to create lives and careers we love, come and join us!
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In today’s busy world, I think it’s safe to say that we could all do with a little more time. But as there are only 24 hours in a day, how exactly do you do that? One simple way to free up extra time so that you can spend it on what really matters, is it to stop procrastinating and start making decisions. Effective decision-making is also crucial if you’re looking to up your game so that you can be at your very best.
To be an effective decision maker, you need to do two things; make the best decisions and make them quickly. So, how do you make the best decisions? It’s quite simple really; first you need to get to the heart of the decision and then you need to put more options on the table.
Here’s an example of a typical decision that working mothers are often faced with; shall I start working part-time, so that I have more time to spend with my kids? In this example, the heart of the decision is having more time with your kids and the first option is working part time. But there are other options too. A second option could be to have flexible working hours. This could mean that you head home and spend some time with your kids before they go to bed, but then put in a couple of extra work hours later. Then let’s find a third option! You could hire a house PA to help with some of the household chores and grocery shopping, so that the time that you do have at home can really be spent with your kids. So, as you can see, you now have three options that address the heart of the decision. The next step is to relate these options to your big picture, so that you’re able to make the best decision. Remember, your big picture should include everything you want to have as part of your perfect life.
So, why is making quick decisions so important? The answer is simple; if you can’t make quick decisions, this can easily become the bottleneck of your life. The fact is, that your decisions are not getting better because you think about them for a week. In fact, it’s actually quite the opposite. All that is really happening is that your decision making is taking your time away from more valuable things in your life.
Now that you know what you need to do to make decisions effectively, start practising and you’ll soon notice how you can free up time for the things that really matter.
What do you do to make better decisions? We would love to know. Share your tips in our Facebook Group, TAC She Sisterhood, and there you can also receive lots of valuable tips and tools to help you thrive in your life and career. Come over and say Hi!
Bye for now.
HANNA GIRLING, wife, mother, business owner, mindset coach, sport enthusiast and forever an optimist.