Setting realistic expectations can be a great way to motivate yourself and give your
life direction. But when your expectations start holding you up to unreachable
standards (whether these are your own or somebody else’s) it can have a terrible
effect on your mind-set and wellbeing.
This is why it’s essential to learn how to manage your expectation, instead of allowing them to manage you.
Managing expectations of yourself.
Ambition is a great motivator, but it’s always important to take time to reflect on the expectations you set for yourself to consider whether they are in fact realistic.
All too often we put unrealistic timelines on our achievements, and when we don’t find success straight away, we’re left with self-criticism and disappointment.
Be mindful of developing a clear timeline for achieving your goals, as well as a realistic plan of action to reach them.
Avoid false expectations
It’s important to consider who has shaped the expectations you have for yourself.
Are these expectations your own, or are they based on what others expect of you, or
at least what you think others expect of you?
All too often we compare ourselves to others and then feel disheartened when we fall short in one way or another.
Make sure you’re living your life according to your own set of rules and you will have a far easier time living up to your expectations.
Adapt to changing circumstances
Life can be unpredictable with situations changing quickly and without warning. Thiscan often trip us up on our race to achieve our goals.
When this happens, it’s important to try your best not to react emotionally and instead take the time to consider your options and adjust your expectations to suit the new situation you find yourself in.
This will help you avoid feelings of failure and despair, so that you’re able to continue along your new path to success.
Dealing with your expectations of others
In life, it’s easy to put high, unspoken expectations onto others. Whether in your
personal or work relationships, this can often lead to disappointments on your side
and uncomfortable feelings on their side of not living up to your standards.
Rather than leaving it unspoken, try to be clear and realistic about your expectations of others, as well as your own goals and plans. That way you can help others manage their expectation of you while developing a clear understanding of how you expect to be treated.
Remember that people can’t read your mind, so you need to tell them what makes you happy so they can adjust their behaviours accordingly.
How are you managing your expectations, come over to the Sisterhood and let us know.
HANNA GIRLING, wife, mother, business owner, mindset coach, sport enthusiast and forever an optimist.